We all have the ability to choose how we
react to pretty much anything that happens to us. Sometimes, it is harder than others.
We have been pre-programmed by our past experiences, the way we were parented, the type of school we went to, the people we hang out / hung out with, the list is endless.
However, if you are unhappy with how you are currently feeling you can override these default settings.
It will probably be hard work but will definitely
be worth it.
I discuss with my students the importance of this as teens when setting up your thought processes. If somebody says something that could be taken as an insult or a compliment, hear it as a compliment.
Choose to react in the way that makes you feel good, if they meant it the other way, it takes their power away.
Again, easy said than done.
Consistent practice, as always
wins the day.
Consistency in everything we do leads to the biggest changes, be that nutrition, fitness, business or parenting.
Fran calls me out when I’m not being consistent with the way we are choosing to parent, I really appreciate it. When tired or stressed I default to defence and can lash out with words that I don’t mean and wouldn’t let anybody else use in that situation. It’s an ongoing process.
What behaviour or thought process would you like to change?
What are the first steps to doing that?
Darren “trying” Checkley