Happy Mother's Day!
A day where we are told to celebrate our Mother's; I think we should do that anyway rather than having a specific day for it but hey-ho lets go for
it.
As we get further through our adoption journey, we are discovering more about ourselves as individuals and as a couple than we ever considered - that's a good thing it turns out we're pretty nice and sorted as a couple.
We have had to explore our relationships with our parents and discuss how they parented.
Discuss what sort of environment our adopted kids may be coming from and how we will need to parent 'differently'
to make up for a lack of parenting.
Every Mum does the job of bringing up their children a little differently but the most important factor is to show love and care.
It's a difficult job, I've shared a video on my blog site that it won't let me link to directly - http://coventrypersonaltrainer.co.uk/1074/what-is-a-mother/
It's a great video and sums up perfectly the role so rather than me waffling, go check it out and I'll describe my Mum.
She's a Warrior - nothing phases her, she'll have a little wobble like we all do but will just crack on with life, adapting when she needs too.
She believes - I've written before how she thought I was on my way to ride Le Tour de France once, that if I wanted to do it then I could. She believes in us all and we've had some hair-brained ideas and plans in our time.
She offers unconditional support - if I need a lift, she's there. If we need her to have the dogs, she's there. She is in her late 70's and still loves to look after
her toddler grandchildren, she can't keep up as well as she used to and needs a nap after. She knows the difficulties we may face as adopted parents and excepts we may have to do things differently.
She makes a fantastic quiche - my Mum's quiches are a highlight of a buffet, they're sometimes a bit random in
ingredients but generally they taste great. Irish stew is top of her skills too.
She puts everyone before herself - I have a tendency to do this as a result, I'm still not sure if it is a good thing or a bad thing but I appreciate it as a life skill.
She is the most tolerant person I know - Fran is a close second. I've had moments in my life when I've been difficult to live with, she put up with it and carried on. My brother, sister and older nephews have all been the same, we forget to appreciate all that she does for us. She continues to support us and be there when we don't deserve it because that is
what a Mum does.
Darren 'Mummies boy' Checkley
P.S. Today's Daily Lent Challenge - Get out for a walk and if geography, time and distance allows take your Mum. A walk is a good time to have a chat and catch up.